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As your quinceañera approaches, of course you’re super excited…you want to invite the world to party with you! But before you start asking every amiga you have to be a dama, take some time to think your choices over. You don’t want to create future "dama drama"!

Lots of friends are going to want to be invited to your quince court, because who doesn’t like to get dressed up and feel special? Once you make the commitment to them, you wont be able to un-invite them without hurting their feelings. Nobody wants the rotten reputation of a "comparona," which is Dominican slang for a snob.

If your quinceañera is very far away, your relationships could change — like if you change schools — and you may make new amigas who you want to invite. Be certain when you pick your damas that you are a choosing those girls for the right reasons. Ask yourself:

1. Will she show up at every dance rehearsal?
2. Will she help me to address my invitations, to make my favors, and to run other errands — with a smile?
3. Will she be jealous of the attention I receive on my big day?
4. Will she be picky about what kind of dress or color I ask her to wear?

If your cousin or next-door neighbor is not your closest friend, don't feel obligated to make her a dama just because you see her all the time. That could result in dama drama…oh, have I heard stories! One quince girl told me that she had chosen a specific hairstyle for her damas. Some of them didn't like it, so they changed it at the last minute without telling her! She didn’t know until they walked out onto the dance floor.

Another girl told me that she found one of her damas smooching her chambelán de honor in the girl’s bathroom. This main chambelán happened to be the guy the quince girl had a crush on. Ouch.

Do you chicas have any stories of dama drama?

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