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If you don't know her already, Advice Girl gives the best dating advice around on eCRUSH.com. She dropped by MisQuinceMag.com to answer your biggest questions about chambelanes! Remember, these are her opinions tell us if you agree!
Should I ask my crush to be my chambelán, or ask one of my cousins?
Sure, ask your crush to be one of the dudes in your court you could even use the Chambelán Finder on MisQuinceMag.com to find out if he really likes you. But dont give your crush the honor of chambelán número uno. For that, ask one of your cousins or at least one of your good guy friends but dont ask your crush. Why? 'Cause your quince is going to be nerve-racking enough, what with the dancing and the speeches and the mile-high stiletto heels. You need someone by your side whos gonna calm your nerves, not make them worse. Plus, what if the guy ends up being a total jerk? Then youre stuck with a bunch of photos of him as a permanent reminder that your night wasnt as fun as it couldve been.
Now, what if your crush becomes your boyfriend? And by the time your big day comes around, things are going well enough that you think hed make a great chambelán? Then, by all means, ask him. But in case he breaks up with you a week later, make sure you have the latest version of Photoshop and someone who knows how to use it.
I was thinking about having an all-chambelán court, basically so there arent any girls to take away the attention from me. What do you think?
Well, since you asked, I think its a pretty foolish idea. First of all, your fear is totally unfounded: When its your quince, nothing can take the attention away from you. Youre the star and everyone knows it, regardless of how many pretty ladies are flocking all around you.
Second of all, if you love your friends, having them be your damas will make a great day even better. Why? Theyll calm you down, compliment you to death, and make everything a little more fun. (Not to mention how fun itll be to pick out their matching dresses.)
Third of all (and this is the most important one): Ever heard of quid pro quo? If you dont include your friends on your court, they wont include you on theirs. And wont that be a bummer?
My dad's really overprotective. Now that I'm about to turn 15, how can I convince him I'm ready to date?
Okay, I know youve already heard this a thousand times from your dad, but Ill say it again ('cause I really believe it): Hes only being strict because he loves you. When you start dating, youre bound to feel bad things like heartbreak, pressure, confusion, all that. And theres a chance you might run into some creepy guys who have no business playing around with your emotions. Your dad just wants to protect his baby girl from all those scary things.
What hes probably afraid to admit is that youre not a baby anymore, and you might be mature enough to handle all that bad stuff on your own (and to know the difference between a good guy and a creep). But a quick convo isnt going to do a darn thing to change his mind. And as for the pouty, immature shouting matches youve had with him in the past? Yeah, thats not helping your cause any.
So what do you do instead? Obey his rules, and earn some cred along the way. (Dont sneak around behind his back hes bound to find out.) If theres a guy you want to date, let your dad meet him and see that hes a nice, normal guy whos totally willing to play by the rules. (And if hes not? Then he likes you for the wrong reasons, and youre better off without him.) Be honest and open about whats going on in your social life, and always stick to your curfew. If you can prove to your dad that youre mature, then he might just ease up on the whole dating thing.
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